A $130 engagement ring…

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This is the best thing we’ve seen on the internet regarding weddings lately. It is incredibly sad that in these times, a real barrier to getting married is the demand by the groom or bride for material things, such as a lavish wedding, expensive ring, even a brand new house with x number of rooms. The expectation, particularly for the groom, that he attain a certain financial status has been blown entirely out of proportion, with more and more ludicrous demands being made by the bride, and/or her family.
Getting married, making the decision to spend your life with someone should be exactly about that… entering a marriage, not the need for (apparent) material status, not an extravagant wedding that is totally “instagrammable”… it should not be a means to fuel one’s narcissism. It is in fact the exact opposite. The decision to get married should centre on living your life with someone, accepting all of their shortcomings and beautiful traits, knowing at the outset that you have your own faults, but willing to treat the other with kindness first, with mercy, with love, with patience and tenderness…
“My husband doesn’t have a lot, neither of us do. We scrape and scrape to pay bills and put food in our bellies, but after almost 2 years of dating we decided that we couldn’t wait anymore, so we didn’t.
I wasn’t even thinking about rings, I just wanted to marry my best friend, but he wouldn’t have it. He scraped up just enough money to buy me two matching rings from Pandora. Sterling silver and CZ to be exact. That’s what sits on my ring finger, and I am so in love with them.

While we were purchasing my rings however, another lady that was working there came over to help the lady selling them to us. She said, “Y’all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic.” When she said that I watched my now husband’s face fall. He already felt like a failure, asking me again and again “Are you sure you’ll be happy with these? Are you sure this is okay?” He was so upset at the idea of not making
me happy enough and of me not wanting to marry him because my rings didn’t cost enough money or weren’t flashy enough.

I said, “It isn’t the ring that matters, it is the love that goes into buying one that is.” We bought the rings and left.
Y’all I would have gotten married to this man if it had been a 25¢ gum ball machine ring. When did our nation fall so far to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000+ jewelry and makes a public decree of his affection with said flashy ring? Sure they are nice, sure the sentiment is wonderful and I’m not trying to cut down any of your experiences, but when did it come to all that? Why do material possessions equate love??

My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn’t afford a piece of jewelry. He was afraid that the love I have for him would pale because he couldn’t afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad.

But here I am though, Court-House married, $130 ring set, the love of my life by my side and happier than I could ever imagine.”

(Credit: Facebook/Ariel Desiree McRae) #9Today

 

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